Why seek counseling with me?
I help teens and adults find hope after trauma. Trauma and abuse often create feelings of self-doubt, disconnection, and isolation. Survivors often tell me they feel disconnected from their past or from some part of who they used to be. I also help survivors re-gain a sense of connection with themselves and others.
The reasons to seek counseling vary greatly from one person to the next. You may want to meet with me for counseling for reasons similar to the following:
- You’re a trauma survivor and want to explore how the event(s) might be affecting your life
- You want help managing feelings
- You want to feel more confident in yourself
- You want to have healthy relationships
- You want to re-connect with yourself by exploring who you are
- You want to re-build a sense of trust, hope, and connection with others
- You want to explore ideas for safety planning
- You want to learn how to handle stress in healthy ways
- You want to learn to identify “red flags” in relationships
- You want to feel less anxious, depressed, sad, angry, or guilty
- You want to stop “walking on egg shells” in your relationships
- You want to improve your self-esteem
- You want to improve your personal boundaries
- You want to develop better communication skills
Who is a good fit for counseling with me?
Teens and adults who have experienced trauma through domestic violence, teen dating violence, sexual or physical assault, or emotional/spiritual/financial/physical/sexual abuse meet with me to explore ways trauma has impacted them. Also, if you are someone struggling with persistent self-doubt, depression, anxiety, guilt, low self-esteem, and difficulty setting healthy boundaries or communicating effectively you are a good fit to work with me.
You’re also a good fit to work with me if you’re seeking support and motivated to make a change in your life. Change takes time and can be like planting a seed. Seeds don’t transform overnight. As you start caring for yourself you may not notice anything different at first. Actively focusing on your needs can allow you to begin seeing new, healthy growth.
How can I help you?
I provide trauma-informed, strength-based counseling following research from mindfulness, relational-cultural, narrative, and solution-focused theories. These approaches benefit you by increasing your self-awareness, helping you gain a sense of the present moment instead of focusing on the past (like depression wants you to do) or worrying about the future (like anxiety wants you to do), helping you feel connected and empowered, and discovering strengths and solutions to problems.
We explore your concerns while emphasizing the strengths you have that can lead to change and recovery. By building a healthy connection through therapy it becomes possible to regain a sense of hope to move toward the things you would prefer to see in your life. At the end of therapy people have told me “I feel more like myself.”
Many of the people I meet with find it hard to identify strengths when they first come to therapy. Trauma, depression, and anxiety don’t give you a lot of time to think about what you’re good at or the abilities and talents you have. As we talk during sessions, strengths have a way of revealing themselves and I help you identify them and discover how they can be useful.
What’s the process to get started?
It’s normal to feel nervous about starting counseling. The following steps are intended to help ease some of the uncertainty around the process. When you’re ready to set up an appointment, here’s how you can arrange to meet with me:
- Call me at (360) 608-4218 for a (free!) initial phone consultation.
- We’ll discuss your concerns and hopes for counseling.
- If it seems like we’ll be a good fit to work together we schedule a time for an intake.
- Following our phone conversation, I email you the intake documents to complete before our first meeting. (The documents are completed entirely online in a secure client portal, there’s nothing you need to print!)
- At our first meeting we discuss the intake documents, your background, goals for counseling and any questions you might have.
- We create a treatment plan and work together on your goals.
- We end treatment as soon as you feel satisfied that you have achieved your goals.